| Welcome and thanks for taking the time and interest in my cave in cyber space. First off, I would like to introduce myself. My name is Rogelio, but many of my friends and family call me Roger for short; since it's much easier to say. I am the youngest of 8 children (7 boys and 1 girl) and I was born in East Los Angeles, California at USC Medical Center. I am currently living in Columbus, Ohio with the love of my life, David aka "Cujo" or "BearLeatherOhio". We have been together for 9 1/2 years now and I'm loving every minute of it. We hit it off right from the very beginning and we both believe that it was fate that brought us together; since he enhances my life each day and I his. I have dedicated a whole page to him, so if you would like to see more pics of him; then click on the link at the bottom of the page and it will take you there. I grew up in a very strong Catholic family, so when it came time for me to let them all know about my being gay; it was a real nail biter. The first person that I told in my family was my sister and she took it easily. I just remember her saying to me; "I've always known that you were gay, but I was just waiting for you to say something. Just remember that I will always be here for you if you should need to talk or need something". Since that day my sister and I have always been the greatest of friends. The second person that I told was my brother Ray. I was so nervous when I told him, that I felt like pissing my pants....LOL. I can still recall what he said to me..."I don't care if you like men or women Roger. The only thing I care about is your happiness and that you are practicing safe sex at all times; because I don't want to lose you." When I heard him say that to me, my eyes started to well-up and out came the tears". Well as you can see it all turned out okay, because he has always been there for me if I ever needed some advice or someone to listen to me. And all I can say to him and my sister is; Thank you for being there for me and I hope to do the same for you someday. I could say that my whole coming out process was a happy and cheerful thing, but it wasn't. Once two of my other siblings found out about my being gay, they made sure to let the rest of the family know as well. I sure felt the backlash of this at one of our family get togethers and I never felt so abandoned in my life. In my coming out process I lost family and relatives. In their eyes I wasn't part of this family and they let me know that I would burn in hell for being who and what I am. With all this happening around my mom and grandma.....these two very confident and loving women came to my rescue. My mom at first was wondering what she might have done wrong in my upbringing. I just let her know that she did nothing wrong and if anything she did do; she did the best job in raising me to be the best I can be and to live life to it's fullest. Since that day, she made every effort and took each opportunity to ask and understand my "lifestyle"; and we even became closer as mother and son, but also as friends. Now as for my grandma, she has always been amy source of inspiration and my driving force to be me and only me. The day of that family get together, she made it very clear to the rest of the clan; that if they had a problem with me, then they would have to deal with her. Because she wasn't about to let them persecute me for something I had no control over. You can sort of say, that she has been my bodyguard over the years. I unfortunately lost both of these two great women in my life (Mom in April 22, 2000 and Grandma in July 5, 2000). I will miss them greatly and may these two beautiful angels rest in peace. I LOVE YOU MOM & ABUELITA (Grandma). |
| Below are the links to all the pages of my site. When you need to get back to this page, just click on the "HOME" link I've provided on each of the pages. Also, feel free to use any of the links I've provided for my Buddies email and the websites I like to visit most. Enjoy. |
